A principle of wholeness
by Jon Rappoport
August 9, 2016
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Suppose you had a community in which there were families but relatively few fathers. For various reasons, the fathers were absent, gone. But the mothers were there, and they had to raise the children.
A wholeness is gone. You can try to talk your way around it, but you can’t. The children are missing something, and that’s all there is to it.
Now you’re going to step in and “solve the problem.” One thing is certain: you’re going to come up with some bizarre plans, because the actual answer is the missing fathers.
That’s obvious to everyone.
But this is a tricky area, because the complexities of “solutions” have been piled up on each other for a long time. You have some very odd structures now. It seems you are wandering farther and farther afield.
If this were pure mathematics (which it isn’t), you’d have something like this: 1 plus 1 plus 1 equals 3. But then you took away a 1, and you still tried to get 3 as the answer. You would then find many 1’s which are not real 1’s and you would plug them into the equation and pretend it was all working correctly.
But it wasn’t and isn’t.
The answer is way back there where the 1’s went missing. They disappeared.
The fathers disappeared and stopped being fathers (if they ever started). Again, you can try to talk your way around this, but it doesn’t work.
Why did the fathers leave? This is a better starting point. Why did they become fathers if they were going to leave?
Can someone else make them come back? Highly doubtful.
If you could get a few hundred possible fathers-to-be in a room before they became fathers (could you do that?), perhaps you could ask a few questions. Do you think you’re going to become a father? Do you want to become a father? If you do become a father, what are you going to do next? Why do you want to be a father? What do you think the role of a father is? Is that role what you want?
Regardless, this is where the problem begins. Introducing huge amounts of money over time into that community, in the form of “programs,” isn’t going to carry the day.
This problem doesn’t have a cause that no one can ever see. It isn’t a great mystery. The cause surely isn’t something to be blotted out. Once you blot it out, what are your chances of solving the problem?
If missing fathers are the problem—and they are—and you try 4,567 other solutions to substitute for the missing father, what chance of success do you have?
If one major solution is empowering a gigantic organization called government to enact other solutions, what chance of success do you have? If the government is, in effect, standing in for the missing father, is this going to be an authentic remedy? Is it going to work for the child in the family?
No, it’s not.
Since the problem and its cause are so obvious, you might come to the conclusion that the people who are “in charge” of solving the problem don’t really want to solve it, because they’re busy looking at everything except the cause.
You might come to that conclusion.
If the missing fathers don’t want to solve the problem, and then the government doesn’t really want to solve the problem, that makes things worse.
What is a father?
To ask that question in these communities, and to listen to answers, in churches and schools and informal neighborhood conversations, does it possibly seem that the best people to engage in that dialogue are the people who actually live there? Is that remotely possible?
Are the government, and all sorts of outside experts, quite sure that such a dialogue, undertaken by the people who live there, will never result in any positive outcome? Are they quite sure that nothing good can come of this? Are they writing off the wisdom of the people who actually live there, and instead assuming that these people have nothing to offer?
And if so, is there a way to be more patronizing and dismissive at the same time?
Jon Rappoport
The author of three explosive collections, THE MATRIX REVEALED, EXIT FROM THE MATRIX, and POWER OUTSIDE THE MATRIX, Jon was a candidate for a US Congressional seat in the 29th District of California. He maintains a consulting practice for private clients, the purpose of which is the expansion of personal creative power. Nominated for a Pulitzer Prize, he has worked as an investigative reporter for 30 years, writing articles on politics, medicine, and health for CBS Healthwatch, LA Weekly, Spin Magazine, Stern, and other newspapers and magazines in the US and Europe. Jon has delivered lectures and seminars on global politics, health, logic, and creative power to audiences around the world. You can sign up for his free emails at NoMoreFakeNews.com or OutsideTheRealityMachine.
It depends of the definition of “father” and i would go back even farther, to manhood itself. It seems to me there is not just absence of fathers but of positive mentors/males role models in general. What it IS to be male has been twisted almost beyond recognition. Cut off from nature, cut off from function, Circumcised on entry by a psychopathic medical industry that only recently decided babies COULD feel pain……The atrocity that has been done to manhood results is damage to fatherhood as well.
All part of the War on Family. The State wants to take over the Family. Thereafter the State can rule unopposed. Two pillars of society – Religion and Family. Both have been the prime targets of Western governments for several decades. The East tried it before that, and failed too.
Ok, I have had just about enough of this ‘there must be a father in every home’ mantra. I will not go into details but I assure you that had I gotten a divorce and kicked my husband out, my families life would be so much better off and the tragedy I now live with would have never ever happened. I stayed married because I thought it was the right thing to do. There was a male in the house. There was no husband and no father. Until the male species get off their collective butts, decide to actually work, and take a more engaging role in family life, this problem will never ever be solved. There are way too many men who want the icing (sex) but do not want to be bothered with making the cake (the foundation for the icing) and actually pitching in and making the household work at alone the relationship. You may keep all the comments, I am sure that I have heard them all and then some. May the Lord help us all.
PS: No I am not perfect. I will be the first to admit that I could have handled things a whole lot different. I had no spiritual leadership, even though my husband wanted a women who attended church, but then he would not go. I had no emotional support and was never ever allowed to be upset, express any emotion, etc. because if I did he would fall apart. I had not financial support because of his chronic illness. Several years I added up his medical expenses and substracted them from his paycheck and then disability. He made the grand total of $450 +/- per year. May the Lord come quickly.
How do you define ’cause’? What is the difference between ’cause’ and blame? This post put’s the blame (perhaps correctly) on the missing fathers (and then on the government attempting to deal with the problem). But then it names this blame ‘the cause’. Sometimes, the missing father is dead – it’s hard to blame a dead person. Other times, the missing father is simply dead to the family. There are missing mothers too.
There is a more powerful, useful definition of cause. Cause can be defined by a solution that works. If a solution works, if a solution addresses the problem, or part of the problem – then it addressed a cause, or part of a cause.
The fact is that the original thing we call ’cause’ is gone. The only useful path is to look for solutions, to look for other causes, causes that can be addressed. And maybe, if you are not willing to be part of the solution, you are part of the problem.
to your health, tracy
It is my opinion that long before the “father” started disappearing, it was actually the bastardization of the female and the feminine and how it has been lessened and labeled weak merely because it can be easily used and abused by the masculine. And we see throughout all societies how males and females are merely half a being when one side is made better or more supreme over the other. Had I not fought so hard to maintain both my feminine and masculine aspects to become a whole person during my continual evolution, there is no way in Hell I ever would have survived most of the half people. And trust me, I’ve paid and will continue to pay the price for that fact. I never knew my real father. My step father, my REAL Dad, he was a kick ass guy. A paraplegic who just happened to have grown up with George Carlin and he and George maintained their friendship throughout their lives. I learned quite a bit from the both of them so I don’t see it anywhere near a failure as they were who I modeled my masculine after. When a one-parent household has a parent, regardless of their gender, who is balanced in their male and female aspects and raise their children to be so as well the children will have a better chance of being balanced themselves even though there was only one parent present. The physical shell of two people being present, each one containing the aspect that matches their physical selves, will not guarantee a child will be a whole being. If anything they just become half people like their parents which totally is dependent on their physical shells. Moronic behavior for such a species who claim they are civilized. If the fathers leave, it has more to do with the fact that they were booted out of the stay and nurture club a long time ago, told it was for the weak along with house work, cooking, sewing and serve your master. They are only one half of a person. That half will seek what that one side wants and needs and much of it is ego / pleasure based … and so he goes it seems so ‘easily’. Well of course, his feminine side was never nurtured and he saw throughout his life how females and feminine aspects were treated. For his own survival, he shuts it down, strips it away, locks it up. Some males have had the mother and father roles being played by both with mostly masculine aspects and very little feminine aspects. Now we’re getting into a whole other problem with the purely masculine mothers (this is what I had, a poor feminine role model) who stay who are the other side to the purely masculine fathers that leave. And what about the purely feminine woman alone with a child. Many times they are easy prey to abusive significant others and children suffer that way. So one sees, stripping the masculine or feminine from any human being is just plain ridiculous. Yes, Zombies. That’s what half people are and they are all genders and they cause much pain and suffering to themselves and others. All can favor one particular side or the other. But all should be schooled and practiced in all that is feminine and all that is masculine. Everyone taught that both sides are equally important and when in balance will make one’s life far more enriching and fill that hole that everyone says they have when they are single/without a significant other. And I am coming from mostly a “mind” state, thinking and feeling state of being in the aspects of the terms and not so much the physical things that each do even though one can pursue those things more if one is so inclined. I took a job as the maintenance supervisor for a two-floor JCPenney at a mall. Most people never notice maintenance guys as they blend into modern society. I stuck out like a sore thumb. Ridiculous, right? Oh yeah, and screw the blame game with the genders. Both sides have been screwed, blued and tattooed. Time the war ends and people start raising your children to be whole and complete beings. AMEN!
It’s not the “missing father” that’s the problem, it’s the expectation that there should be a father, there must be a father, and if there isn’t, then the children must suffer. The nuclear family is a nonsense standard/requirement/stricture/whatever, paring familial connections down to the absolute minimum – kicking out the grandparents who could pass on old wisdom and care for the younger children when the parents can not, other branches of the tree who could do much the same, restricting children to playing only with / learning only from children roughly their age, and learning only to compete/hate those even slightly older or younger. Children don’t need specifically male, or even female, role models. They just need role models, love, someone(s) to be there and care for and teach them, and less shame for things they have no control over.
After conception, fathers are as necessary as those grandmas and grandpas, those uncles and aunts, those cousins; hell, as much as neighbors, the man down the street, the woman across town, the hobo under the bridge. Children don’t need some cold, distant, cruel figure of authority just because so-and-so said this is the model, now everybody follow it — they need family, and honestly, few men care about family beyond what they can suck out of it and how it can serve them. If I’m supposed to be sad that this society has found a way to pare things down even more, then too bad, dad, because I’m not. It’s getting to be what we do best.
Wake me up when they figure out how to cut parents entirely out of households; now there’s something interesting.
@Shighness
Speaking about gender…
“If I were to compare the Olympic decathlon to fatherhood, I would say fatherhood is a lot tougher.” – Caitlyn Jenner
“Children don’t need specifically male, or even female, role models.” – Shighness
Kids need a Father(male) and a mother(female)…not she as he and he as a she. It confuses children, and now they think that that is normal to take gender changing medication and have surgery to change their genitals at a eleven years old. And when their father pleads with them to wait a few years till they are over puberty to make decisions about their gender he is over ruled by the government.
It’s not normal… just because Caitlyn won woman of the year, does not mean that it is normal. Their were much more diserving woman, who have achieved something real, moreso than Caitlyn “I am really twisted” Jenner.
If you raise a child as a gay, or heshe, at least be truthful and explain to the children you raise that you are not living a normal sexual life and family life, that you are different and that normal sexuality is a male (man) and a female (woman). Without that combination a family is not whole and the species will go extinct.
Feminism, gay sexuality and trangenders are at fault as well as the government for the disintegration of the family and father. Father is now debased and the ininitiated find no definition for what is real.
I hate to break it to you, but gay men can ejaculate, and lesbian women can get pregnant. It happens, for real, for really real, it’s true. If everyone turned homo tomorrow, there would still be children. And maybe we’d put some more thought into raising them beyond “gotta make sure my boy becomes a MAN (male) and then goes and finds a wife and has a boy and makes sure he becomes a MAN (male), and MAN (father) is not WOMAN (mother), and MAN (masculine) is not WOMAN (feminine), and Let’s Not Analyze At All Why I Must Keep Repeating This Mantra Of Duality Over And Over And Over”.
After reading some of Jon’s stuff, this is hilarious. Discussions on mind control and restrictive systems and repression of human potential, and then … this. “normal”, five times in short order.
Half-joking when I say it, but there’s an eight cartel out there called Patriarchy and you won’t believe how many people are in on it, whether they know it or not.
Anyways. Best wishes on your endeavors and good luck being a dad, Michael.
Every situation is different, Jon. You’ve simplified it too much. I’m a mother of a fatherless child, and it was his decision to annul himself from his child’s life. It was he that was not committed. It is the child that suffers the consequences and it is the mother that tries her damnedest to do her best in place of the great void of a father in that child’s life. There are myriad of issues that arise the mother must deal with, especially emotionally and psychologically. Public policies and laws will not correct the behavior or the stigma associated with fathers MIA.
One of the greatest hindrances that has helped in achieving a fatherless generation(s) is the lack of personal accountability. I know you don’t like Christianity, Jon, but it’s the principals/morals/values of Christianity that kept one in check. Without those Christian principals instilled in society, our family units divide and fall.
Also, how many decades has our government been complicit in a fatherless society by enabling the poverty stricken to seek assistance while being told one must be “single” (not married) to be granted welfare.
In conclusion, I wouldn’t wish a fatherless upbringing on any child, nor the heartache of parenting alone. Lone parenting is the hardest and most thankless job in the world. Thank the Good Lord for His grace, patience and forgiveness. God knows I’ve struggled.
@Standing up
Wow…thankless job.
I never looked for thanks as a parent.
I just enjoyed my children as people. I did’nt know you were supposed to ask for thanks.
Parenting is not hard, parenting when one does’nt want too is hard.
Christianity made all those patriarchs that had to be obeyed and catered to, those terribly afflicted men who always were right and never wrong. Those “do what I say and not what I do types”
The Christian god is an afflicted male, jealous, angry, a misogynist who must be obeyed or else.
One need not be a Christian or for that matter religious to have morals/values or principals.
We who do not believe in a God can be good humans too.
Parenting alone is not a heartache. You make it that way.
You have no brothers or a father that can fit the part. Or a male friend for that matter.
Thankless in terms of a hardship that people, like yourself, have no idea how incredibly difficult it is with stereotypes and stigmas that single parents must overcome. You seem to be an intelligent guy, so why not use that grey matter. Have you tried parenting without a partner? Were you having to explain to your child why their other biological parent is missing? Please enlighten me. Explain to me how you got through day to day without having to worry enough as mother and father. Please share with me the hurdles you went through when you had that baby unwed and were ostracized because of it, and your child was born disabled and how it took you three months to recover from a natural birth. Don’t forget to tell me how you the first year went with a colicky baby that had projectile vomiting and encephalitis and had to have surgery in it’s 11th month and again in it’s 3rd year. Explain to me how you were able to pay your baby’s medical bills while not being able to work because you were taking care of that very sick baby. I could go on and on and on, but I STILL thank God that my child was gifted to me. She is the light of my life, and I’m sorry you are so miserable you can’t consider what it might be like for another human to be going through such trivial times.
In response to the Christian reference, you automatically went on the offensive. Perhaps you need to reread my statement and stop feeling so triggered by the mere suggestion of Christ entering your realm. I was once living a life devoid of Jesus Christ, but I thank Him every day that he saved me. I know how hard it was living without Him, His grace and His forgiveness. Maybe you could find some peace within Him, too, and calm your fears and hostility. I’ve never felt more free than I do knowing He is with me. I’ll pray for your heart to soften.
Your timing as usual, Jon, is impeccable!
I have just begun the draft of new https://ozziethinker.wordpress.com/ article to be titled “A Modern Day ‘Love Cult’ Assumes Detracting Truths Are Heresy”.
It will tackle “what if?” versus “what is” in a different way, but your sentiment is so valid, I feel sure I will be compelled to reference it. Indeed, I envisage creating a cameo around you with you representing the face of considered, compelling reason.
My last, albeit dark, article on the other blog did not mince words https://exopolitician.wordpress.com/2016/07/05/blacks-whites-and-the-greys/
“I have taken a few weeks break from writing in order to recharge batteries. Perhaps also my rest period is partly motivated by the fact that I am becoming increasingly disillusioned by the wilful arrogance of people in general. People that possess those dreadfully devious submissive superiority complexes I find particularly irksome. At least Hitler had the balls to be clear on who he was. A typical ploy of those without minds is to conjure guilt by association brandings so, to be clear, complimenting Hitler does not mean I am his admirer. In fact I see the horrible truths of the NAZI legacy that largely pass unnoticed like bats in the night. Sadly there has also been a staggered lack of comprehension as to the simplest of concepts I have revealed. In place of joyous enlightenment my wisdom has largely been greeted by an entrenched angry ignorance propped up by illegitimate fantasies. Ignorance is never an excuse, so I neither forgive nor forget. The Gnostics correctly called this type of conceit forgetfulness….”
Best
OT
All of my female friends who had children, have constantly criticized their husband for not being good fathers. (Cold. absent and careless)
But curiously, all of them later in life, couldn”t’ believe how their husband became such great, great grandfathers. (Warm, present and carefulness)
It makes you wonder!
Everyone who enjoyed this article by Jon must read “Father and Child Reunion” by Dr Warren Farrell http://www.warrenfarrell.biz and please look up his videos on Youtube. All his books are very good in terms of the new context for our supposed gender issues in the 21st century. This book may make you cry.